Halle Berry blames divorce on choosing to marry boys, not men

Halle Berry has lived through three divorces now, and looking back, she believes she knows what the problem was.

“I looked at the part that I played and looked at the part the men I had married played. I had chosen boys. I wanted to do grown up things, but I was not with a grown up. I was choosing from a superficial place. I became a monster. I was head banging mad, because it was not working. Here, I am a woman, trying to be married to a boy,” she said at Dondre Whitfield’s Student African-American Brotherhood conference (SAAB).

During the conference, Berry spoke to her past relationships and also discussed what women generally could learn about themselves.

“As women, we need our men to stand up and be men,” she said. “Take care of us and serve us. When you do that, we will fall over and bow at your feet. But you have to start it, because God made you first.”

“I was feeling really down because I filed my third divorce. I thought, ‘I can’t get it right.’ I was feeling heavy-hearted, embarrassed and ashamed. I thought, ‘Surely it’s my fault. I need help. This is not where I want to be. I should be somebody’s wife. I wanted to be a wife and mother. How I became an actress, I don’t even know.’ But I was three times divorced with two baby daddies and I don’t even know how this happened.”

-The Grio