DIVORCE PAPERS VS. SEPARATION PAPERS

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Comment by Fancii on August 26, 2009 at 8:25pm

I think you should wait. You need time to find yourself again. Spend time with yourself, evaluate yourself and decide what you could would do better the next time around.

Comment by lovie2000 on August 26, 2009 at 7:54pm

Well I didn't wait, and I have no problems. I separated from my husband in 93' filed for a divorce three times, he would never sign and said I was going to be his wife until the day he dies. Well sadly to say he passed away last year, so I am now single again.

A lot of times still being connected to your previous husband can cause minor and or major problems in any relationship you try to maintain while married, I say this because the man I got involved with after our separation asked me to marry him but we couldn't because I didn't have a divorce, but he did understand because he knew from day one that I was still married and trying to get a divorce. Well we aren't together either, so it wasn't so much as a problem was it?

It really depends on the person, their situation, and their beliefs on this subject.

Comment by Kym on August 25, 2009 at 9:09pm

I say wait before you allow yourself to get serious with anyone because they may not be willing to deal with all the drama. I too, was in court for years before my divorce was final and I didn't think it was fair to bring that to a new relationship. Plus you really do need that time to readjust and discard all of the "mess" that came with the divorce process. My divorce is final now and I still have trust issues but I'm working on myself so that I can give myself completely to my next mate, without the walls and drama. There's nothing wrong with dating, just make sure you are clear and honest with the person you're dating about what you want. Don't lead anyone on.

Comment by Vickie C. Southern on August 25, 2009 at 5:26pm

When I filed for my Divorced,it took 6 months for it to become final.While waiting,I started dating someone else.It has been 20 yrs later and we are still DATING.If you can wait,wait.My 20 yrs of dating someone else has caused me to miss out on my blessings of another man that may have been the one that God had in stored for me.But because of my faithfulness to be with 1 person,I am missing out.So,on that note.......PLEASE wait.

Comment by Edith on August 25, 2009 at 1:45pm

I filed for divorce in March of 2003 and was caught up in paperwork for years because my then husband would not sign off on anything. It took literally until May 2006 for my divorce to become final and that was just because of my insistance with my attorney. I dated off and on but never got serious because I was so caught up in the courts that I didn't see any need in getting truly involved. My new husband was divorced when we met and his ex wife was already remarried. I had only seen her a couple of times while we were dating but after we became engaged she started showing up at his house and was always calling and stirrin up trouble. I say all this to say that its ok to "date" but you can't really court anyone while you're caught up. We had trouble from his married ex wife so just think what a current wife or husband could do to make your life miserable. If you can wait...Wait.

Comment by Jackie on August 25, 2009 at 12:01pm

I think you should wait. People do work things out once they have had a chance to cool off and think about it.

Comment by Yolanda Flakes on August 25, 2009 at 11:43am

I say wait. They may change their minds and decide to make their marriage work. Don’t hurt another person on the rebound.

Comment by Kraziekat on August 25, 2009 at 10:54am

I would wait to date. I think that would be the best thing to do. If not you may have alot of problems with your ex and your new mate.